Last night I was feeling guided to invite more divine peace and presence into my awareness, to relax my mind and allow my creative flow to flow again (after feeling the creative tension of writer’s block on a project I’m working on). Before I went to sleep, I asked to feel the presence of unconditional love enveloping me and to allow more love within myself and to express through me.

Every Monday early morning I meet with a group of coaching clients for our “Monday Mojo Boost” weekly call, and today I woke up feeling pleased and excited to feel the field of love emanating from the group, as I felt sure it would be.

Instead, I got on the phone and was met with a veritable shitstorm of dense energy, with the “stuff” that was up for those on the call. So I facilitated a bit of a bitch-fest as we allowed the shadow to be present and welcomed, and observed the alchemy as these patterns of deeply stored pain, trauma, sadness, frustration, exhaustion, and tension reared their heads to be witnessed and seen, then enveloped in understanding, compassion, and ultimately a deeper knowing of power and grace.

We laughed, we cried, we held space for it all. And I was reminded that sometimes, an integral part of the creative process is to 1) ask for something we desire, 2) manifest the OPPOSITE , and 3) discover that it’s exactly what we asked for , when we know how to interpret it.

Love is always unfolding, even in the darkest moments of despair, even when we can’t feel it or see it or sense it.

And this is one of the keys to creating what I call a “Joygasmic Life” – it’s about welcoming and embracing everything, no matter what it looks like, and gleaning the gold from the garbage, allowing the gross to reveal grace.

Evolution requires that creative friction creates tension, in order to catalyze a quantum leap – whether intrapersonally, societally, politically, environmentally, or cosmically. The more we expand our capacity to hold the tension and lean into the friction, the more ease and joy we experience, paradoxically.

If you’re an evolutionary creator, a healer, an alchemist in your own right, no doubt you know this and do this and have done a ton of work on yourself.

AND… often transformation comes not because you “know” what to do and you have all the tools, but simply because you allow yourself to be held, witnessed, mirrored, validated, and seen by someone who can deeply see you, feel you, “get” you, understand you, and know what’s happening at your deepest soul level with you.

Yes, you’ve got to do the work yourself, but you can’t do it alone.

If you’re a smart, capable, successful woman, chances are you’ve gotten where you are by “doing it yourself” and mastering the art of self-reliance. Those skills have served you well, and in many ways will continue to serve you.

But your next level of success, impact, joy, freedom, and contribution are not going to come because you mastered “Lone Wolf Syndrome.” Been there, done that, got the t-shirt. (And believe me, if you feel resistance to receiving support, asking for help, or being in community, I totally get it…I’ve got a PhD in “DoItMyself Studies” from the University of Life. )

You don’t have to have your shit together to create the life that you dream of.

You don’t have to always be positive, look perfect, have the perfect website or marketing materials, blah blah blah.

You really do just get to BE YOU, even in the moments when the real you is a hot mess.

But you’ve got to break through into new levels of allowing yourself to receive support.

If you’d like to speak with me about what receiving support might look like in your specific situation, email me at (team AT and we’ll talk.

Just because you know HOW to move through your shit, doesn’t mean you have to do it alone.

Let yourself relax into just being fully you, allowing it all, and loving what arises.

There’s nothing wrong, ever, other than the story you’re telling yourself about why it should be different.

Your Joygasmic Life might include creating your first $10k month, leading your first retreat, launching your first online program, rockin’ the stage with your message, getting your book published, having people flock to sign up for your workshops …

Or it might be creating the exit strategy for your job that’s too small for your soul, and crafting the path to birthing your work in the world.

Whatever it is for you, if you’d like it to feel Joygasmic, I’m here for you. 🙂 Email me at (team AT and let me know what’s up, and we can go from there.

In the meantime, remember that everything in your life is an answer to something you’ve asked for, at some level… notice and acknowledge how life is providing everything you need to grow, even if it appears to be the “opposite” of what you thought you wanted.

p.s. The pre-party countdown is underway for Embody U — super earlybird registration specials are happening this week for women ready to embody your soul-stirring mission (or just clarify it!), learn the tools for ecstatic creation and life design, and… hello… unleash your Joygasm. Need I say more? 😉 Join the tribe this week and you’ll be included in the next 5 months of pre-party events, resources, and content I’m creating just for you. Curious? Click reply, let me know what Qs you have, or request a private call with me and we’ll go from there.